“I think the quality of sexiness comes from within …

and it really doesn’t have much to do with breasts or thighs

or the pout of your lips.”

~ Sophia Loren

There is nothing sexier than someone happy in their own skin.  Walking into a party our first glance may be caught by the exposed flesh of the barely clothed, but it tends to moves on, drawn to something deeper.  That intangible inner glow some people exude, people who are completely at ease with themselves.  Authenticity makes you stand out from the crowd, without needing to shout about it.

 In our secret hearts we all desire to be confident enough to be ourselves, and accepted for who we truly are.  We’re attracted to people who embody that, who radiate an energy that draws and inspires us.

            What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself

and for those around you.   That kind of beauty

enflames the heart and enchants the soul.

~ Lupita Nyongo

Needy is not sexy.  Insecurity not sexy.  Trying too hard is deeply unsexy.  Authenticity is powerful.  Authenticity is appealing.  Authenticity allows for genuine connection and there is nothing more attractive than that.  When we’re comfortable enough with ourselves to drop the pretence and be really seen in all of our messy, authentic glory, we allow others to do the same.  What is sexier than that?

   “Sex appeal is something that you feel deep down inside …

There is more to sex appeal than just measurements.”

~ Audrey Hepburn