Following on from my last post, I thought I’d share this passage from the brilliantly warm and touching ‘Love Walked In’ by Marisa de los Santos.  Reading it recently made me think about connection: how a sense of connection between each other relies on our willingness to be true and honest and open, and how this is also the foundation of authenticity.  Even about the broken places; in fact especially about the broken places. So, in case you need more encouragement, here it is:

‘But I thought I’d figured it out, why our sex life wasn’t more spectacular; or to be specific, was several worlds away from spectacular.  For all our talk, all our exchanges, we never handed over anything of real importance.  We were all laughter and lightness and glow.  We liked each other till the cows came home, but I never saw his broken places, nothing soft or stinging or half healed-over.  He’d never seen mine, either.  And I decided that truly stellar sex wasn’t possible without that kind of knowledge.’

Authenticity makes sex better, too – a little added incentive!

Quoted from the novel ‘Love Walked In’ by Marisa de los Santos, (c) 2006